Guest post: You are the sum total of the people that you surround yourself with.


You are the sum total of the people that you surround yourself with.

I firmly believe that.

Greetings, good subscribers to Winbox!

I trust that you are all well, happy and having a productive and profitable start to 2017.

What if you aren’t?

One of the things that could be amiss could be the people that you choose to surround yourself with.

One of the most amazing realisations I have had, whilst walking along my path of recovery from OCD & Anxiety – is how much we are affected by our outside influences.

I think this only came to light when I began to feel calm, assured and confident in myself – I started to pick up gut feelings on who, in my ‘circles’, were a real positive force – or a real negative one.

I would like to ask you now – take 10 minutes to switch off, turn your tech off, disconnect the phone, put the dog in the shed and make sure you are uninterrupted.

I want you to sit, breathe and relax.  Allow the thoughts of the day to drift by and out of mind.

Then – I want you to begin to think about each area of people in your life;

  • Friends.
  • Family.
  • Work colleagues.
  • Mentors/Associates.

All the people that are closest to you, in your life.

Now ask yourself the question – for each of those people – ‘are they good for me?’.

Your gut feeling will tell you instantly if there are any issues with that problem, or if they are draining your energy.  Or, if you start to smile and feel great – confirm that they are brilliant people to have in your life.

All I want to do is to make you aware – what you choose to do with this information is completely up to you! (Disclaimer!)

People come and go – I believe that every one of them teaches you a lesson – but to keep surrounding yourself with a negative influence will only bring you down.

Sometimes, just sometimes – you must make some tough decisions – but to live the life that you want, that you desire – they must be made.

What you may find is that it is those who are closest to you – who advise with ‘your best intentions’ – are actually the ones that are trying to make you fit in to their image of you – to control your actions because it suits them.

It’s the same with choosing employers, coaches or business mentors – like your social circles – are they pushing you to achieve your dream, to raise your aspirations and inject positivity – or are they trying to funnel you down THEIR way.

As a bloke with a big red book used to say – “this is YOUR life” – ensure you are living the life of your choice – not the version imposed on you by others beliefs and visions.

When people get caught up in anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, low confidence – by default they place themselves in a subservient position to people who are ‘stronger’ or more dominant.  

Therefore, people pleasing and allowing people to control them is a strong possibility.

This can also have a severe effect on the performance of a business owner or salesperson – as the ability to act with confidence and to be assured is crucial.

So sometimes it’s a great idea to stop and check in with yourself – make sure you are living YOUR life on YOUR terms and chasing YOUR dream.

You got this!  You just need to STOP, BREATHE & REFLECT once in a while.

As always, I love to hear your thoughts and feedback – you can tweet me @NickElston_ or message me on Facebook

Until next month – have a fantastic February!